Signs of a serious relationship on the part of a man. How to meet a serious man? How to fuck everything

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In response to a question asked on the forum:

And by the way, the question asked is an interesting, burning one, and one that genuinely worries the female population of the planet. :)
Really... (putting on a poker face), if you have a SEX-ONLY relationship, is it possible to turn it into something more serious?
Looking ahead, I’ll say – YES, and yes, yes.
A sex-only relationship can be transformed into a more serious one and lead to marriage.

And now more details.

We debunk myths, dispel fears.

I’ll start with my favorite pastime – debunking myths.
The average girl, what does she think?
Her head is full of cliches, like “Men only need one thing”, “As soon as I give to him, I’ll immediately become uninteresting”, “You can’t give on the first date, otherwise he’ll consider you a whore”, “He needs to be tortured longer”, etc. d.
So the author of the topic thought that when she visited the hero of her story and had sex the first time, she made a mistake. He probably regrets it now - he should have tortured him, made him run after him, NOT GIVE, and then he would have...
Even now, out of all the options for solving her problem, she chose – NOT TO GIVE.
He thinks that it will be more attractive in the eyes of a man.
Eh, Anya... If only everything were so simple. She didn’t let me on the first date, she tormented me on the second, she broke me off on the third, and about a year later, by great mercy, allowing me to move on to kissing... I received, from a boyfriend tormented by sperm toxicosis, a cherished invitation - to visit the building with the proud sign of the registry office. :)
In reality, everything is of course much more interesting. And only a teenager or a sucker would fall for such a primitive manipulation. Why marry a sucker? So that later, after six months of worthless marriage and limp sex, you can get a divorce with relief? Same for me as “happiness”. :)
And anyway, where do these “don’t give” advice come from? Previously, chaste behavior was explained by the moral requirements that society imposed on the girl. Today, society has long turned a blind eye to premarital sex. And advice “not to give” comes from books like “How to Become a Bitch.” Just don’t forget, girls, that these books are written by aging, lonely, and marginalized whores. While the whore was young and beautiful, and her men were just as young and stupid, there was gesheft. Then the years took their toll, the fools became wiser and became tight-fisted, so we had to write books about our stormy youth, forgetting the dull present. And believe me, every aging whore who teaches you “not to give” knows very well that this method does not work. They just need you to “not give.” After all, if you, young and beautiful, start giving, who will need them - old nags? Yes, girls, you are simply fucked up and brushed aside. :) And while you are squeezing your pussy with your hands, an older aunty can climb on a young one. Ride, so to speak, the little hunchbacked horse. :) Double success - the book sells and the competition is eliminated.
So in reality, girls who use the “NOT GIVE” method, after some time, will only lose interest in their person. A normal guy will spin around, spin around, and then just dismiss you as ungiving, frigid and weird. This is where all love ends. And the guy will go to those who GIVE.
But those who give have every chance of making the relationship serious. Otherwise, how do girls who actively and fully gave to their boyfriends before marriage get married? A? How? Why don’t they abandon them, don’t lose interest in them, but marry them? Yes! The registry offices are crowded with pot-bellied girls in their sixth month of pregnancy. And on each one’s satisfied face it is written “LET’S GO.”
And in fact, the question is not “to give or not to give?”
The question is: “How to give correctly?”

How to screw everything up?

But first, I’ll tell you what to do, it’s definitely not worth it.
If you want to be dumped, give your boyfriend more MOSK. Be hysterical, show yourself stupid, arrogant, deceitful, obsessive, flighty, control him, show that life with you will be HELL, and you can be sure that the relationship will be in ruins. It doesn’t matter whether you gave your boyfriend sex or not.

How to GIVE correctly?

I know a lot of stories when even beautiful girls were abandoned due to lack of sex. And I know a lot of examples when relationships began with sex. The relationship is long and leads to marriage.
Right now, at the moment, I have a girl in consultation who gave me her on the first date. She didn’t really like the sex – it was small, limp, and she dumped the guy herself. Do you think after sex the guy lost interest in her, breathed a sigh of relief and disappeared, or rather the end? Whatever the case. Now he writes dozens of text messages to the girl a day. Wants to continue. He no longer knows how to get rid of him. Moreover, the guy is far from a nerd. Good appearance, and popular with other girls (not spoiled by size).
So, after sex, interest is not lost. If a girl has not shown herself to be a log in it, on the contrary, she grows. And if, in addition to sex, it’s also interesting to communicate with her... there will definitely be love. :)
The main thing is to do everything right. The right way to lead a guy from sex to marriage.
How to do this? Do everything according to technology.

FORWARD BY POINTS:

1. Show the guy that he and the relationship with him are not just for you.
If you met in SZ, close the profile after meeting. If they did, then the sex should be good. Or, at least, the guy should have the feeling that he satisfied you. Tell him that you have never had such great sex in your life. Let him know that he (your boyfriend) is your first. If not in terms of virginity, then at least in terms of sensations. Make him feel special. On top. It's binding.

2. Be interested in more than just sex.
Get to know your boyfriend - what he likes, what he hates, what team he supports, what he dreams of, and what he wants from life. This - getting to know your boyfriend better will be useful for you and will be useful for business. If you have something to talk about, they will not only fuck with you, but also... bingo! - communicate. :)

3. Teach your guy not just to fuck with you, but also to sleep together after sex.
Let it be just sex, but from time to time let him stay with you all night (or you with him) to fall asleep with you, wake up with you, have dinner and breakfast together. This will already improve the quality of your relationship by an order of magnitude.

4. Make joint plans for the future.
Dream about where you will go for a walk tomorrow and where you will go on vacation in the summer. Walking and relaxing TOGETHER is natural. As the relationship strengthens, plans should become more specific and serious. Start by discussing how he will meet you after work, what movie to watch in the evening, and gradually come to a discussion of how you will spend your vacation together, and what gender of children you would like - a boy or a girl.

5. Use social media to communicate your relationship.
Add each other as friends. Set your joint status to “in a relationship.” Like and comment on his photos. Ask his opinion about your photos: “Kitty, I posted a photo from the gym, look, did I turn out well?” He'll watch it and like it too.

6. Enter his circle of acquaintances and introduce him to your surroundings.
Chat with his friends. Introduce him into your company.
Ideally, create a common social circle so that he and your friends see you as a full-fledged couple. Then, even in your absence, conversations will revolve around you and your future together.
...I emphasize that communicating with his friends does not mean hanging on to them. Your boyfriend shouldn't end up feeling like his friends are more important to you than him. (DL, thanks for the correction)

7. Introduce parents.
First introduce him to your dad/mom. Then ask to visit him, so that he can show you off to his ancestors. Make a good impression on them. And when they start to see you as a couple, invite your parents to visit you so that you can all get to know each other. So that your fathers have a glass, and your mothers happily cry while hugging. :)

8. Start living together. Play the demo.
Staying with him all night, gradually forget your things from him. Mark the territory with creams, toothbrushes, and lace panties on a string. :) Gradually move towards him for good. Needless to say, living together should bring more comfort to a guy’s life than problems. Surround him with feminine attention and care. He should feel that with your appearance his life has become better, more comfortable, more enjoyable. That being with you is more fun than being alone before.

9. Subtle hints. :)
Go to a jewelry store and try on rings. Look happy at the same time.

10. Decisive assault.
After particularly good sex, you can hint to him about marriage: “darling, when will you propose to me?” The second way is to do it through his parents. Let them ask their son, “Well, son, how are things going with Masha, how many guests will we invite to the wedding?”

IMPORTANT! Don't be humiliated.
I emphasize that what I wrote about above is a demo and adjustment. Adjustment should not be confused with humiliation. Never humiliate yourself. Meet halfway, try to make the guy like it, submit (it is quite natural for a woman to be MARRIED, and not IN FRONT or OVER), but do not humiliate yourself. Nobody likes humiliated, pitiful people who have lost themselves as individuals. Never confuse adjustment with humiliation.

IMPORTANT! Don't be intrusive about all this.
Relationships should develop naturally. If you drag a man to the altar, grabbing his tie with an iron grip, do not be surprised that near the altar you will find yourself with a tie in your hands, and not with a man on your arm.
Do you love freedom? Believe me, men love her even more. Therefore, do not act hastily. Gradually and gently, plunging the man deeper into the relationship with you, leave him the opportunity to retreat.
And if he leaves, don’t panic, don’t rush, wringing your hands after him and shedding burning tears. Don't be humiliated or intrusive. Gently but persistently, try again, and again. If a man does not follow the above points with his own feet, then again, gently, leave this guy. Perhaps he is not your destiny. And your man is still getting ready to meet you.
Or perhaps your boyfriend just needs to feel that with your departure, part of his soul has also left, and then the call will ring, and his voice on the phone “Hello sun, how are you, and I miss you.” :)

P.S. Thanks to my muse for the inspiration. Sunshine, you read this first. :)

The eternal question of women who seek advice from a psychologist, astrologer, or fortune teller is how will their relationship with this man develop? With which, as a rule, there are so many problems that it is already difficult to cope without a specialist. As a rule, people seek help when the case is already advanced. Because it's too late, I'm in trouble. It is much easier to recognize a potential problem in advance. And if this has already happened, you need to reconsider your attitude towards the situation, towards yourself and towards the tormenting man as soon as possible. And then the external situation will change - either the man causing suffering will disappear on his own, or he will change (but this happens extremely rarely, unfortunately, rather as an exception to the rule). And this will open the way to a bright streak in a woman’s life, to a new relationship, this time harmonious.

First of all, I would like to note that every woman needs to treat herself with love and respect. Without self-love, it is almost impossible to build harmonious relationships. Because others treat us the way we treat ourselves and, therefore, how we allow ourselves to be treated. Moreover, what kind of people are attracted to us depends on our inner attitude. Secondly, the important thing is that the point here is not so much in the man, but in the woman herself. Namely, what kind of men she chooses. There are a number of types of men who are not capable of long-term and harmonious relationships (there are also women, but in this article we will talk about men). And until a woman realizes where she is making a mistake and does not internally reconsider her attitude towards herself and towards similar men, she will step on the same rake again and again (as a rule, each subsequent case is worse than the previous one). Often unsuitable men are attracted to women who can be called idealists, maximalists, overly romantic people who dream of ideal, passionate, all-consuming love. As a rule, this is a consequence of a lack of love on the part of the father. Having matured, such a girl subconsciously strives to arouse love for herself in precisely those men who cannot give it to her. And the pattern repeats itself over and over again. Less often, the opposite situation occurs - excessive idealization of the father, great love on his part.

Types of men with whom it is dangerous to have a relationship.

1. Married man.

He swears his love to you, and in moments of intimacy he is caring and gentle. But when communicating with you, he always looks at his watch, hides you from everyone, cannot meet with you on weekends and holidays, while saying that he loves only you. However, in reality there are not two of you, but three of you. At the same time, he will have a lot of explanations for why he cannot leave his wife, despite the fact that he loves only you, but does not love her and she does not understand him. Or, he will always promise you that the time will soon come and he will divorce and marry you. But all this will happen... in the future. These are just words. Not actions. Although there are exceptions.

2. Unavailable man.

This type of man behaves with you exactly the same as a married man. But at the same time she is not married. He looks like a great man who makes you feel good when you're having fun together. But when you need help... he's not there, he's out of reach. He always has things to do that are more important than you. At the same time, he, too, like a married man, does not introduce you to his friends, does not tell his parents about you (let alone introduce you to them). When he needs you, he is your covenant, and you are nearby. But he doesn't even entertain the thought of being there for you when you need him. He doesn't think about it. He is already comfortable and good. And if you get tired of it and leave him, it will be... good for him too. Although perhaps not right away. Because it won't be comfortable for a while. After all, you won’t be there when he wants it, as always, for a few...hours or minutes.

3. Bad boy.

He is a funny guy, a charmer and a joker. He is charming, sweet and irresistible. When you are together, he puts you on a pedestal, makes vows, jokes. It's never boring with him. But... out of the blue, he suddenly doesn’t get in touch with you, despite his promises. And he can disappear for weeks, not caring at all about your worries. Then, just as suddenly, he appears and, with constant charm, looking lovingly into your eyes, asks for forgiveness. So what if you found evidence of his betrayal in the form of lipstick on his shirt? After all, he is so charming and so faithfully promises that this will never happen again. And you forgive because you want to believe in a fairy tale. After all, this charmer is so sweet and speaks so skillfully about his love for you. But...he's as irresponsible as he is charming.

4. Sexually preoccupied.

All his thoughts are about the same thing. All he needs from you is the satisfaction of his sexual needs. Sex replaces all the delights of a relationship between a man and a woman. He is not interested in heart-to-heart conversations, he does not know how to express his feelings to you, he craves only one thing. And he knows how to solve all problems in relationships only with sex. But... at any moment when you are not around, or when for some reason you cannot satisfy his sudden need, he can do it somewhere else. After all, sex is all he needs from a woman.

5. Unreliable, irresponsible man.

This man calls himself self-sufficient and independent. He doesn't need your presence at all. Or rather, he only wants to be with you sometimes. And not every day. After all, he is self-sufficient, and he feels good. You console yourself with the thought that you have him, because he is dating you. And that he will lend his strong masculine shoulder in a difficult situation. But... this is an illusion. Because he doesn't need it. And it may very well be that at some point his self-sufficiency in his relationship with you will reach such limits that he will no longer need to spend his time on you, at least occasionally. After all, the main thing for him is his freedom and independence.

6. Poor thing.

Such a man will shower you with his attention in abundance, shower you with ardent declarations of love, fulfill your every whim without hesitation, is ready to literally do anything for you and cannot live without you. And soon you won’t be able to be alone for a minute. Because he will be with you all the time. He wants to merge with you, to always be one, and... will demand the same constant attention from you. You will have to give all your time only to him. So, in the end, you ask yourself the question - does he really love you, or is it some kind of painful addiction?

7. Engineer of human souls.

This is a sincere storyteller, an excellent expert on female psychology. He paints in all colors the beauty of love for you and you as such. Beautiful words flow from him like a river. Ah, these women who “love with their ears!”... He casts languid glances at you, he talks about love, promises a lot, and constantly gets into your soul. He has a keen understanding of the slightest movements of the human soul, feels you very well and pretends that he is “on board” with you. He is an excellent manipulator and masters psychological methods of influence. He knows your motives and needs, tells you everything you want and promises you a lot. And soon you realize that he has gotten so deeply into your soul that you can’t get him off. He hooked you on beautiful words, like a drug. He has the habit of subtly asking how much you love him, how much you need him. And you say - yes, I love you! This is exactly what he wanted. But... it soon becomes clear that he cannot offer you anything but words. And he doesn’t think it’s necessary. He is weak and helpless, does not keep his promises, and many do not even remember. He doesn't know how to act. All his energy is spent on beautiful words. As a rule, he has an inferiority complex, and through intimate conversations he makes women fall in love with him. For self-affirmation.

8. Selfish.

This is a man who loves only himself. He is simply not capable of loving anyone else. Especially if we are talking about a person who pays great attention to his appearance. Do you think it's nice to deal with such an elegant, handsome macho? However... this is only an appearance. The more carefully he chooses his clothes, shoes, perfume, hairstyle, the more he looks in the mirror and laments about the extra pounds he has gained, the more advanced the situation is - in front of you is a narcissistic narcissist. He really takes good care of himself, but... only of himself. It is simply not enough for others.

9. Workaholic.

A man whose interests are limited solely to his career will never be able to make a woman happy. He disappears at work for days, and he doesn’t care about anything except her. In this pair, the man-work third is the odd one out. Probably, such a person has a very undeveloped ability to feel, love, and care. He replaces care and love with money earned at work. And, if a woman tries to be indignant at his inattention, he will reproach her for not appreciating his efforts to provide her with a sweet life. He simply won't hear her.

10. Drug addict, alcoholic, gambler.

A man prone to harmful addictions can make any woman unhappy. And neither the most wonderful compatibility nor love can save you here. You can live with him, but... is it possible to live happily? And is it worth the pain?

11. Controller.

At first glance, such a man can amaze you with his strength and masculinity. He knows how to solve problems, he is active, strong, decisive. He is the master of life. As a rule, he occupies a high position and earns good money. Behind him is like behind a stone wall. But at one fine moment you realize that the stone wall has turned into a cage. Because such a man limits you in everything and dictates all your actions for a long time to come. Controlling every step. He perceives you as a thing, his property.

12. Aggressor.

Is it worth explaining that if a man beats his woman every now and then, then relying on the well-known saying “He beats means he loves” is not the best way out. Moreover, he is not limited to beatings alone. And don’t skimp on insults and rudeness. If he is so aggressive that he easily raises his hand against you, it is stupid to believe that he can be changed and you will live like in a fairy tale. Even if he suddenly begins to promise that he will never repeat this again. If he raised his hand to you, try to put an end to this relationship as soon as possible.

13. Greedy.

This is a special type of man. He can have as much money as he wants, but this has little effect on the degree of his greed. He can explain this to you for any reasons, and even assure you that he is not greedy, but you should keep in mind that people are prone to “excuses”, even if they themselves are not aware of the true motives of their behavior. A man who spares money on his woman is not a man. And tomorrow he will spare money for his child. So what then? Believe in miracles? He can spare money on everyone except himself. Or he might be greedy for himself too. It's not that important. Another thing is important - it cannot be fixed. A man by nature is a protector, a provider. And if your chosen one has greed instead of these qualities, everything is too neglected. Run away from him and don't regret anything!

14. Indifferent.

At first, he may seem so touchingly unhappy that he will touch your soul. You will want to pour out your tenderness on this unfortunate creature, warm him, caress him and finally make him happy with your love. After all, he has such sad eyes, he is so serious and reserved. He probably has such a vulnerable and sensitive soul that he is afraid to show his feelings so as not to be hurt or offended. And you will take it and melt the ice, because your love is enough for two. Stop! First of all, pay attention to your self-esteem! Why should you love for two? There will be no happiness in such a relationship. Because there is no harmony and equality there. And it won't. Secondly, such stories, as a rule, end in the collapse of relationships, a lot of disappointments, illnesses and mental trauma. Because an insensitive, indifferent, cold person who does not know how to love will not melt from your love alone. He doesn't need it. Although there are exceptions - when a man, at first cautious and reserved, as the relationship develops and trust in you increases, he opens up and becomes loving and gentle with you. But this usually happens pretty quickly. And this is rare. If his coldness lasts for months, or even years, there is no point in expecting a miracle.

15. Alphonse.

This money-obsessed type can hardly be called a man. But he doesn't think so. He is used to selling himself, his attractiveness (and often he is really damn attractive!). He is well versed in the intricacies of female psychology, skillfully manipulates and seduces. He can be a good lover. And he knows how to “show off” so that you lose your head over him. Having previously learned all the features of your excellent material well-being. But... will he love you? He only loves your money. You need to be very careful with this one and stay away from it. So that it doesn’t turn out like in one humorous story, “A friend met such a handsome guy! Not a man, but a fairy tale!” He doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t work, ... and doesn’t intend to. He lives in her luxurious apartment, with everything ready And he responds to all the indignation - if you don’t like something, I can leave, they’ll quickly pick me up, handsome.”

16. Womanizer.

This is a man who, in principle, is incapable of love. Although he himself may not think so. But he calls anything love, just not love itself. He can sincerely admit that he is not monogamous. Hiding behind slogans from books that a man is a sower and all that jazz. So everything is in the nature of men, and not at all his fault. But he may not say this. It doesn't matter. If a man is walking, it is in vain to expect him to finally calm down and stop walking to the left. Even if he says that he loves only you and will no longer go to the left. However, if you are ready for this, continue to be with him. And even deceive yourself that you are happy and don’t go to doctors at all, don’t experience an inferiority complex, etc. etc. But is it worth it?

17. Bachelor.

This type is very similar to unavailable and independent. But he most often openly declares his bachelor principles. He does not accept the institution of marriage and cannot stand obligations. Taking responsibility for someone is simply stupid. For what? If you can live for yourself, your loved one, for your own pleasure. And he is not going to offer anything but sex to his sexual needs with women (after all, he doesn’t owe anyone anything). And he will always find them. He does not know the beauty of close relationships, care and family comfort. He doesn't understand this. The word “we” does not exist for him, and even infuriates him. And the word “ours, common” is generally like a red rag for a bull. Among bachelors there can also be misogynists.

18. Gloomy philosopher.

This is a man full of abstruse ideas and reasoning. He will quote classics and philosophers, he is well-read, smart and looks down on this whole “imperfect world” with petty-bourgeois foundations. Often he leads an ascetic lifestyle and cannot earn anything (with loud slogans that money is so low and vulgar). May be overly involved in spiritual practices, Castaneda, yoga, etc. (which in itself is not at all bad, but not in the case of a gloomy philosopher). He ignores the physical, material world. May not take care of himself, be unkempt, unkempt. He has reduced sensory sensations. After all, he is a high-flying bird. He doesn’t care about generally accepted principles. He can also look down on marriage, cynically talking about “loving a woman like a wild flower - he saw, smelled, admired and moved on,” about open relationships. This is what "high relationships" are. Why should he burden himself with everyday life and serious relationships? After all, he is above this, all so spiritual, smart and advanced.

19. Loser, whiner.

This man is a typical loser. He cannot find a decent job, he always sits penniless in his pocket, or even on someone’s neck. At the same time, he may consider himself an unrecognized genius, whom no one appreciates or understands. As a rule, he blames others and circumstances for his failures. At work, they say, he is not appreciated, his salary is not increased, his bosses are all bad, his colleagues are envious. His friends don’t understand him and that’s why, by and large, he doesn’t have any friends. And women are completely insidious creatures. And he had never seen a single good girl. They're all bitches. Whining, criticizing everything and everyone and seeking pity is his typical behavior. And even if at first he says that you may be an exception, and not like all these bitches, then the likelihood that in his eyes you will soon join the same cohort of bitches is very high.

20. Infantile. Mama's boy.

This is the type of weak, dependent person. As a rule, he has an overbearing mother, or was raised by an overbearing grandmother. Often he is the only son of his parents (or of one mother, whose husband either abandoned her or never had one). And now he obeys his mother in everything, she completely controls him. If he manages to fly out from under her wing and starts a relationship with you, firstly, his mother will most likely not approve of his choice (why does she need competitors?), and he will listen to her, or he will behave with you just like with a powerful and strong mother. He won’t be able to take a step without you, he will be entirely under your influence. There is no need to look for support and support in such a man. And with his addiction, he will very soon begin to drive you crazy. Do you need an over-aged, infantile “son”, or is it still a man?

The list goes on. But the trends are clear. Of course, all these types are just conventions. And they, as a rule, are exaggerated, as in any typology. In addition, there are practically no pure types in nature. Usually several of these characteristics, developed to varying degrees, are combined in one person. Some of them are intersecting. All people are not perfect. And this or that trait may be present in a normal man who knows how to build good relationships. But the most important thing is to understand to what extent it is developed. And if some of these traits are strongly and seriously expressed in a man, then, of course, you can build a relationship with him if you really want to (but is it worth it?). Moreover, “love is evil.” But! Is this love? Love is harmony. Although many call it strong feelings, where there is a lot of suffering, or passion, or painful dependence. Anything but love. Remember that it is almost impossible to create a long and happy relationship with such a man. Although many of our women live by the principle “even if it’s bad, it’s mine.” Here you should decide for yourself what you want - a happy family and a loving, reliable man nearby, who not only makes you happy, but is also happy that you are nearby. Or suffering, complexes, tears and psychosomatic illnesses. And remember, no matter what a man is, he must take care not only of himself, but also of you and your children. How about yourself. But playing with one goal will not bring happiness.

Many women believe that they will become accomplished individuals only after family success - a successful marriage and the birth of charming children. Unfortunately, every year more and more single women turn to psychologists who are unable to create a strong union with potential candidates for the role of spouses.

Rice. Signs of a serious relationship on the part of a man

The problem for these women lies in their inability to understand the male essence and even at the stage of courtship to recognize that the gentleman does not have serious intentions towards them. These ladies are sure that all men are mysterious creatures. This opinion is wrong. Men are quite easy to understand if you know what exactly to look for.

Signs that a man is serious about his intentions

So, you need to develop your powers of observation in order to understand whether the suitor is going to propose to you or is he just trying to brighten up his leisure time?

Sets priorities correctly

He always listens to your opinion, tries to do everything so that you are interested in him, and you do not regret creating a relationship with him. A loving man will prioritize your desires and aspirations. A very important indicator of the seriousness of a lover’s intentions is his sacrifice of his own interests for your good.

For example, you agreed on a joint country walk, and on that day he was invited to visit friends whom he had not seen for a long time. A loving man will always choose a walk. And not only because he values ​​you, but also because he is used to keeping his promises. As a last resort, he will consult with you on what is best for him to do.

Tells the whole world that he loves you

Your lover will not miss the opportunity to tell you about his feelings for you. He will invite you to his house to introduce you to your relatives, introduce you to his circle of friends, and celebrate all important holidays with you. This attitude on the part of the gentleman emphasizes the seriousness of his intentions; he seems to be saying: “I want everyone to know that we are a couple.”

If all of the above does not apply to your potential husband, alas, only disappointments await you in your future joint relationship. Such a man is unlikely to offer you his hand and heart. You should not get hung up on this representative of the stronger sex. It’s better to immediately break off relations with him and start looking for a more worthy candidate.

Protects, cares, provides

A truly loving person will always be interested in both psychological and physical. He will never refuse help - he will carry heavy bags, pick you up from work, cook dinner if you are tired. He will always take care of his beloved woman, as he perceives her as the mother of his future children.

A lover who experiences true feelings will always protect you from ill-wishers. If you tell him that you were offended, he will immediately begin to understand the situation, defending your honor. And he will not allow you to need anything. And such basic things as paying for dinner at a restaurant or buying gifts are not even worth talking about. All this goes without saying!

Dedicates into his plans

In fact, men can be “read” like an “open book.” And men in love become very straightforward and sentimental. They will not hide their intentions, but will talk about them directly, with hints or in a comic form. You will always understand what your chosen one wants.

Women who were lucky enough to be in a happy marriage recall that after just a couple of weeks of meeting their future spouses, they heard statements from them about their desire to get married. Some men are shy, which prevents them from speaking directly about their desires. Such gentlemen will give themselves away with leading questions. For example, they might ask, “Do you think we are close enough to get married?”

So, you received a message from a man, looked into his profile and were satisfied. Correspondence has begun and everything seems to be going just fine. But still, somewhere deep inside you feel a worm of doubt gnawing at you: everything is going so well that sometimes you wonder if this is a dream. In other words, you doubt that this man really exists, is telling the truth and has serious intentions towards you. There are several signs by which you can tell how serious your man is and thus promising as a marriage option:

How quickly does he respond to your emails?

Everything is very simple here. If you don't hear from your crush on a regular basis, it's a sign that he's not that interested in you, or maybe he's not interested in you at all. There may be several reasons. For example, he is busy texting other women and treats you as a backup option. You might argue that he is most likely busy with work. This is possible... Just keep in mind that if your man cannot find a few minutes to drop you a few lines, then most likely he will never find enough time to come to a meeting with you far away. So and wait by the sea for weather.

Well, and vice versa... If your man sends you news regularly, responds to your messages quickly (a week is the maximum!) and your communication is not interrupted for a long time, this is a very, very good sign. Your interlocutor is really interested in you!

Does he answer the questions you ask him?

Be sure to be attentive to the content of his response letters. Does he give answers to your questions in his letters? No matter how elementary this rule may seem, in fact, a lot of people exchange messages almost every day and at the same time know very little about each other. This happens when one of the interlocutors (or even both) avoids answering, not wanting to take communication to a new, deeper level. For example, you asked him about some event that he was going to two days earlier. In his response letter, he completely ignored your question and wrote to you about something completely different.

On the other hand, if he answers every question you ask, then it's safe to say that he is truly committed to a serious relationship. By the way, you have the best chance of finding such men on sites that offer Personality Test to identify the most suitable partners. If a man took the time to fill out his form completely and passed the test, then there is a very high probability that he came to this site really with the goal of finding a partner for a serious relationship.

How often does he address you by name in his letters?

Calling each other by name is a sign that you already feel comfortable with each other and you can even say that your relationship has moved to a new, higher level of intimacy. When a man repeats your name over and over again in his letters, it is a good sign that you have become someone special to him.

If you have been corresponding with a man for quite a long time, and he has not gotten into the habit of addressing you by name in his letters, this is a sure sign that he corresponds with a lot of women and has made it a rule to never use women's names. So as not to confuse them...

In the case of Russian-speaking dating, you should be wary of the endlessly repeating pussycats and bunnys, on foreign sites - such name substitutes as my dear, my love and all sorts of other faceless names from the animal and plant world. J

Does he remember the details of your correspondence?

If he remembers any specific details from your past conversations, then this is another great sign of his pious intentions towards you. For example, a week ago you wrote to him that you were going to the cinema for some international premiere of another Hollywood romantic comedy, and today he asked your opinion about this film, and also mentioned that he had watched it himself... Yes, damn it, what if it's not love...

Have you both exchanged your contact information?

No matter how wonderful, interesting and exciting your correspondence is, it is important to understand that it is always time to take the relationship to the next level - exchange contact information (phone numbers, personal email address and even, perhaps, home address). If your correspondence continues for more than two months, and the man still does not ask for your phone number, there is a high probability that he does not really have you.

I’ve never understood men who sit on websites solely for the purpose of gawking at photographs and just chatting (that’s something that’s completely incomprehensible to me). As a rule, married men are entertained by this and perceive correspondence with you as innocent entertainment from their point of view or a means to raise self-esteem: it’s nice to feel welcome when life at home has long been boring.

As you can see, it is not at all difficult to determine the seriousness of a man’s intentions. The main thing is not to deceive yourself and not turn a blind eye to warning signs. What to do if all the signs say that your man is not serious? My advice: don’t make unnecessary moves, don’t abruptly interrupt the correspondence, but don’t get hung up on him alone.

Don't put your eggs in one basket, start messaging other men. Remember that you are a Woman and your time is precious, don’t waste it on some virtual fantasies that will most likely never work.

Many single women desperately dream of meeting a serious man - calm, non-drinker, unmarried and without financial problems. That is, these ladies don’t seem to require anything special, but why do they so often get involved in stories with gigolos, drunkards and eternal bachelors? Let’s figure it out: how to find a serious man and what to do to make your relationship grow into something more than a short fling.

Nowadays the easiest way to find a normal partner is on the Internet. But if you are trying to lure the stronger sex with photographs in underwear, fishnet tights and frivolous poses, then your chances of picking up an intelligent person are zero. Coming on a date in “war paint”, a mini and with a low neckline is also stupid, because he is looking for a wife, not a prostitute. True, he will not refuse sex, and you will build some hopes.

The easiest way to pick up an alcoholic is in a bar or restaurant. But how to calculate it? It’s very simple - men who drink talk a lot about alcohol: how they drank with friends 10 years ago, what brand of cognac is the best, what wine would go better with a barbecue, etc. The conversations seem neutral, but if alcohol is constantly mentioned in them, you should be wary.

Often women, as a way to protect themselves from gigolos, are advised to say on the first date that they earn little and do not have their own home. This is stupidity! A serious man is looking for a serious, responsible woman, and if a lady in this life has nothing but children and problems, then he is not interested in her.

You can spot a gigolo by his conversations. He shows off, talks about prestigious work, connections, big deals, foreign trips, etc. A serious man also likes to brag, but within reasonable limits and his stories are easily verified. Alphonses cleverly extract information about you, but often get confused in their stories. True, this can only be understood after some time, by comparing what he says today with what he said a week ago.

If you don’t have mutual friends, don’t rush to invite a new friend home. Let first dates take place on neutral territory. In addition, communicate by phone and on the Internet. By what and how he writes, being on his social network page can also tell you a lot about a person.

If he gets angry, calls you names, threatens you (even jokingly), is jealous, even though you are not really dating yet, then break off the relationship immediately! Don’t think anything for him, remember: he said exactly what he said! Always think about yourself, your own comfort and happiness first. A normal man needs just such a woman - an intelligent, independent and self-sufficient woman. Maniacs, sadists and losers select those who are ready to sacrifice themselves “for the sake of love,” or rather, those who are wildly afraid of loneliness, are full of complexes and do not dare admit it to themselves.

Only young people can afford simple love; an adult woman needs something completely different. Therefore, always tell men directly that you are looking for a serious relationship. Married people, bachelors, and other rabble will quickly weed out when they see that you are “boring”, normal, confident woman. But a serious man will cling to you like a tick. He will look after you, give flowers and gifts, fix the taps in your house, repair the fence at your dacha, take you out on holidays to your friends and prove in every possible way that he is your prince.